Affairs to Remember

I have read lang some quotes and comments that interest me and wanna share with anybody.....quotes on extramarital affairs.
–” Today’s workplace is the most fertile breeding ground for affairs.”
According to a marital researcher, 62% of unfaithful men and 46% of the women met their illicit partner through work. And since most husbands and wives are separated from each other for at least nine hours a day (what more pa those in abroad), you’d probably meet enough people and eventually find someone with whom you have chemistry. The intimacy of working together, not bad marriages-that is the slippery slope to infidelity. (Shirley Glass, Not Just Friends)
– Opening up emotionally to a co-worker of the opposite sex is like removing clothing one item at a time.
At first it is very innocent………’may tampo ako sa boyfriend ko kasi umalis siya’..or …’gusto kong magpapayat kasi medyo chubby na ako’. etc….There is no need for alarm.Neither of you have done anything wrong. However, the more you open up to each other emotionally, the more vulnerable you become to having an emotional affair…emotional pa lang yan. What if in span of 2-3 months of knowing each other, you begin to have lunch na in Ayala, have photos na as if magboyfriend kayo…kiss on the cheek, invite the guy to your dorm, lie beside each other in a bed ( as in no malice pa un ha), or sa iba naman may pakandong-kandong effect pa kasi nga sobrang friendly lang (sus!!).But being friendly din ba ang sumama ka sa isang private place? If once lang, maybe it’s because you’re both drunk, nakalimot…but twice? and who knows kung ilang times talaga…and to feel na you’re someone ’special’?..that’s way beyond being friendly lang.
Ano nga ba ang appropriate and not sa isang office….if you’re still single and you have a problem sa boyfriend mo or sa family then find an unmarried officemate at dun mo sabihin ang problem mo; or if you’re married naman, natural!! magsabi ka sa asawa mo at pag-usapan ninyo ang problema kung anuman and never take the role of a knight in shining armour….keep the topic of your conversations with your co-workers of the opposite sex focused on work related items. If the conversation switches to a more personal level then make a quick exit. How do you know if the conversation is on a personal level? Ask yourself if you would feel comfortable with a room full of people listening to the conversation, in short, be sensitive lang at wag magpakamanhid.
And according to my recent favorite lines….’ ang pinirmahan mong contract is only to do your job’ at hindi kasama sa contract na un ang favorite lines ng mga irresponsableng iyan na…..’nireciprocate ko lang naman ang kakulitan niya’……mga bata pa ba kayo? feeling nyo playground ang office nyo? hay…..as in malalim ng buntong-hininga yan ha.
And I noticed lang din ha, be it firm, company or hospitals or clinics,…doctors, engineers or ARCHITECTS…very familiar sa mga lines and limits but when it comes to more important issues or concepts of life..mga ‘tanga’ din yan, how? they don’t even know how to recognize an imaginary name tag that says, “already married, already taken.hands off, keep distance”, am I right? or satisfying lang talaga ang feeling na being young, charming, with the image of ’sweet and friendly’, you can attract a decent, married guy? but I think being ‘friendly’ is only a mask, a front to hide their desire to flirt, right? at least di obvious……they have different styles lang talaga, there are those na pahinhin sa simula, pasuplada effect ba pero it won’t take long bibigay din naman; at may iba garapal talaga, un bang kailangan ng kadena para matahimik lang sa silya nila, i-confront mo naman patay malisya pa…like this ba….
wife: do you have an affair with my husband?
girl: ah wala po……
wife: niligawan ka ba ng asawa ko?
girl: ay hindi po ( magalang naman, in fairness)
wife: eh may gusto ka ba sa asawa ko?
girl: ay wala po….
wife: eh ano un?……….
Ganyan na ba ang trend sa atin ngaun? If you don’t like the guy then why flirt with him? And here’s another conversation according to survey daw ( ano daw?!!)
Wife: may I ask, sino ang nagyaya?
girl: ah siya po
wife: paano ka nya niyaya?
girl: ahh…hmmm…makulit po kasi siya..
wife: panong makulit? kasi lasing siya?
girl: ahh…di ko po alam kung ano un lasing siya…
wife: ahh…(medyo may bwelo muna)….eh ikaw ba lasing?
girl: ahh..hindi po, medyo may tama lang…
wife: ahh..may tama lang, so if gusto mong tumanggi that time
pwede kang tumanggi?
girl: ahh, opo…
wife: o eh bakit di ka tumanggi?
girl: ahh….hmm…i don’t know po the answer….
But in fairness, according sa isang kakilala, kahit daw anong flirt ng isang girl sa office,never daw na iyan ang magyayaya, of course un guy pa rin daw……well…magyayaya ba ang guy unless natantiya nya na sasama sa kanya? Ang about this ‘makulit’? hellooo?!!!!even the kids, kahit less than a year old pa lang, if they don’t like vitamins, or antibiotics or ung food, di mo mapipilit na ibuka ang bibig nila…so what more like you na may mga edad na….
And what about those married guys? feeling binata paglabas ng bahay? they have all the freedom to do what they want, be irresponsible enough not to consider the feelings of their other half, that their actions,kahit pa walang malisya, would, in anyway, hurt and insult them?
Ahh..now I realize, when it comes to ‘affairs’ magkaiba ng concepts ang babae at lalaki, not to mention ung guys’ sense of safety and a general rationalization that what the partner doesn’t know won’t hurt them, and they’re applying one of Satan’s greatest lies–it won’t hurt-one time won’t hurt you..if one time nga lang baka pa, but what if nasundan?….they would say ” it wasn’t naman an affair kasi di naman deep at walang love”…….does it mean, kung kaming mga babae, girlfriends or wives, ang makita nyong petting with other guys, as long as hindi deep at walang love, you would not consider it an affair, would it be ok for you guys?
The problem with these guys, they underestimated their wives…dahil nasa house lang or malapit lang ang workplace and they exert little effort lang? Didn’t it occur to you na we are capable of flirting din?..you would say, kanino naman?…malay nyo sa nagtitinda ng taho, nagtitinda ng fishball, or sa owner ng internet cafe or sa kliyente or pasyente…ahh…kasi di kasing gwapo nyo or kasing talino nyo? bakit, un ba ang hinahanap namin? If you guys are just looking sa mga sexy, gorgeous or mga flirty type na can satisfy your fantasies..well, not us, we’re looking for emotional stability and security…so if you can’t satisfy and sustain that..pasensyahan na lang, ha ha.
And may I go back to you ‘girls’…….satisfying din ba ang makaattract ng married guy? masarap ba ang feeling to know na kaya nyo silang demonyohin? for one moment ba, you thought and expected na they would leave their families for you? as long as there is an inch of love left, do you think their wives would let you to? For your information para kayong alak na pag bago tinetesting pa if masarap..natapangan siguro or napaklahan?…but ang family, ang original..para ding alak yan, let’s say 4.5% alc. red wine, habang tumatagal lalong sumasarap. …According to what my instant friend Tiny said, ” ke lalandi nyo, dapat sa inyo pagjojombagin” Para kayong apoy sa ilawan or gasera, nakakaakit tingnan…pero once napaso ang gamu-gamu, tiyak aayawan din kayo…eh ano kami…ung nanay ng gamu-gamo? (LIntek!!)
How can wives get even with you? If after all what you did you can still maintain your image..na para sa iba parang di kayo gagawa ng milagro….pasalamat kayo, di kami katulad ninyo….na before pa kami gumanti nakukunsensya na kami…but how i wish na maranasan nyo rin, only then we can get even.